Daily Rituals for Divine Feminine Energy
Written by: the Editors of goop
Updated on: May 23, 2021
It’s become common advice to advise women to avoid using exclamation points in professional emails: Delete them to be taken more seriously in the workplace. But does removing them—to appear less feminine, to be taken seriously—further emphasize the falsehood that femininity inherently stands in our way?
The pressure to micromanage femininity doesn’t start or end with punctuation. And it can leave us physically, emotionally, and spiritually drained, according to holistic healer Rachel Rossitto (above). Rossitto believes that while masculine and feminine energies are both sacred, many of us struggle to find balance between the two in a world biased toward masculine qualities and pursuits. That’s why Rossitto works with women, many of them leaders in business and in their communities, looking to heal and recultivate what she calls the sacred feminine. It’s deeply spiritual work that challenges how we think about pleasure, joy, and success—and questions whether power must always look like masculinity.
A Q&A with Rachel Rossitto
Humans have long and deep relationships with femininity and masculinity, but those qualities don’t start or end with us. They exist together in us and in all things.
The sacred feminine energy is nurturing, soft, grounded with strong boundaries, and trusting of her intuition. The sacred masculine energy is present, logical, and focused with a deep desire to protect and build. When these two energies work together within us, they create a sweet union that allows us to embrace all that makes us human and holy.
For women, embracing the sacred feminine is about fully realizing her divine essence, standing in all her power, and creating a more harmonious world. This doesn’t mean we are operating only from our feminine energy. It’s about understanding our full range of power as both feminine and masculine beings and cultivating that energy when needed.
In so many of my clients, I see masculine energy in overdrive: Many women feel pressure to be and talk and act masculine in order to succeed in their careers and in the world. I work to help those women recognize and embrace their innate feminine energy. They may be CEOs in a world that rewards masculine qualities, but that doesn’t mean they can’t embrace and find power in their feminine ones. A woman who sources her creativity and energy from taking exquisite care of herself is more powerful than one who pushes so hard that she exhausts herself and is no longer experiencing joy and pleasure.
Of course, men can and should connect with their inner feminine, and women can and should connect with their inner masculine. These sacred energies are beyond gender, though. Everyone—all genders—can find balance with both.
Cultivate a morning ritual to engage with your intuition, whatever that means to you. Keep it simple and allow it to unfold naturally over time. A key element is the ability to be receptive. Take a moment in the morning to ground and connect with yourself, to enter into a receptive state where you get to listen to your heart and all the wisdom of nature around you. You get in front of your day, actively engaged with what’s aligned with your highest self and highest vision.
I find that by starting your day from that place, you cut a lot of the crap out. You can do less running around like a chicken with its head cut off and instead move through the world more deliberately, more intentionally, and more resourced from within.
There are truly a million paths to the same outcome. Here are some pieces that have worked for me.
How to Tap into Divine Feminine Energy
Cultivate a sacred space. Find a place in your home where you can set a meditation pillow and create a little altar, even if that’s just a candle, a crystal, or a flower. Something super simple. I’m constantly on the road, so I have a little travel alter kit that I bring with me that immediately grounds me into a space.
Experiment with practices and techniques. Journaling is powerful. Just do a big brain dump. Get all of your ideas and fears and crazy thoughts out of your mind and onto paper. Let yourself feel emptied out.
I sit with a cup of tea for twenty minutes. Tea is an incredible ally for awakening the spirit, grounding the body, and coming home to yourself. Drinking some tea helps soften us and opens us up to the day.
Meditation and breathwork can be life-changing. If you’re just starting out, start small. It could be five or ten minutes a day. If you’re like, “I’m going to meditate for thirty minutes every single day for three months,” you’ll likely go a couple of days and then fall off. You’ll be like, “That was stupid. I don’t like meditation. Breathwork doesn’t work.” You’ll lose momentum and end up pooh-poohing it. And then you’ve lost a treasure.
If you are someone who does not spend much time in the ethereal realm, having a more practical embodiment practice, like dancing or yoga or running—something that really grounds you in the body—may be a better fit for you.
Allow yourself space to explore. Start your morning practice with five or ten minutes a day for one week. Do it with someone else—an accountability partner. Text each other after you’ve done your practice. See how you feel after a week or two weeks or a month. If your practice is not working for you after your set period of time, change it up.
Listen to your intuition. These are purification practices. You remove the layers, the gunk, so you can have a more pristine experience of the true essence of yourself. When you do that, the people you attract into your life absolutely change. It doesn’t mean you need to ditch all your old friends. But you may find you no longer relate to the same people you once did. For example: I know I hung out with a lot of my friends because we would go drink together. We loved going out and getting drunk. And then when I stopped drinking, I couldn’t relate to them in the same way. No diss on them. It just was like, “Okay, these relationships aren’t nutrient-rich anymore. This is not feeling good.”
I believe in the power of magnetism. We attract other things and other beings that are vibrating at the same frequency as ourselves. If you’re deepening your relationship with the sacred feminine, you may start meeting more women who are on that path as well, who completely own their feminine power and redefine what that even means. Women who are deeply connected to the earth and to nature and in sync with the rhythms of this planet. And women who are paving their own path and not the one that was laid out or expected of them. Our power gets stronger when we expand our range of masculine and feminine energies and our capacity to create from our hearts.
If we’re creating from ego, driven by competition and money, we lose the harmonious balance with the planet. But if we are able to rise in our own sacred feminine power and create our world from a place of love and service—can you imagine?
Rachel Rossitto is a spiritual empowerment coach and holistic healer focused on connecting women with sacred feminine energy through daily rituals and embodiment practices. She offers one-on-one coaching as well as a subscription-based content library and membership community.