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Vibrators, Sex Toys, Lubes, and
More for Every Desire

The vibrator that feels like oral sex. The vibrator that’s made for deep internal stimulation. The one that does both, all while allowing a partner to control it remotely via your private app invitation. We’re living through a vibrator and sex toy renaissance: If there’s a sensation your vulva dreams of, it probably just hit the market in the form of a chic, body-safe silicone massager. And that’s just the (proverbial) tip.

Of course, not all sex toys are created equal—and as with all things sex and desire, everyone is different. We’ve included the ones we love most, organized by their most salient function, so you can choose which best suit your pleasure. Also included below: our favorite lubes, prostate stimulators, BDSM-friendly jewelry, and more sex toys to guarantee your world is rocked, every time.

Vibrators for External Stimulation

THE VULVA VIBRATOR

If this sounds like a vague category, allow us to explain: The Ballerina is designed to fit in your palm and be placed on your vulva, with the narrower end positioned at the tip of your clitoris and the wider end on your vaginal opening. A silicone gel coating makes its texture squishable enough that you could indent it with your finger—which gives it a next-level feel that’s almost as good in your hand as it is on the clitoris and labia.

THE ULTRAFLEXIBLE VIBRATOR

Pom’s soft, flexible body sits comfortably in the palm of your hand, providing targeted clitoral stimulation. It’s built to bend and move—just apply pressure with your fingers and it’ll bend, hugging close. (It’s slightly smaller than the Ballerina, for context.)

THE VIBRATOR THAT FEELS
LIKE A TONGUE

You might not be able to tell from this picture, but the tip of The French Lover has a very thin soft silicone tip designed to mimic the feeling of a tongue. Which means it’s great for stimulating not just the clitoris but any erogenous zone—the flexible end lightly vibrates and can be flicked around for a delicate licking sensation. It’s a great sex toy for a teasing buildup and for those who are sensitive to strong pressure.

THE HANDS-FREE VIBRATOR

Designed for partner sex, Eva II has flexible “wings” that are meant to be tucked under the labia to help hold the vibrator in place so that all hands are free to support body weight or do whatever else you’d like them to do. It might take some practice and adjusting to find the right position—pull one labium (lip) over one wing at a time. It’s also a good solo option if you don’t like the feeling of vibrations on your hand.

THE CLITORAL AND LABIA MASSAGE VIBRATOR

Named for its flame-shaped tip, The Firefighter gives strong and focused stimulation to the clit—and carries that vibration to the labia. Four speeds and two pulsation modes help you build arousal, while the main groove puts pressure right where you want it.

THE PULSE-AND-SUCTION VIBRATOR

The Womanizer feels a lot like oral sex. How it works: Turn it on and place the stimulation head over the clitoris to form a seal—we recommend doing so with a water- or oil-based lube—and let it do its thing. (That thing: emitting pulses of air and light vibrations that create a sucking sensation around the clitoris.) It fits nicely in the palm of your hand and is nearly effortless to operate. This is especially true if you turn it on autopilot, which switches up the vibration patterns and intensity to mimic the variation of partnered oral sex.

THE WAND VIBRATOR

Wands provide a powerful rumbly external vibration, which is good for those who need more stimulation to get off. But the issue with most traditional wands is that they need to be plugged into a wall (bummer town), plus they’re usually heavy and huge. Enter Le Wand Petite: It has all the same power in a smaller size that’s lightweight and easy to maneuver, and it has a flexible neck that bends along with your movements.

THE FINGER VIBRATOR

Finger vibrators, like the Fin, are designed to be effortless, feel natural to wear, and not distract from the moment. Just slide your pointer and middle fingers along the grooves and change the intensity with the power button on top.

THE DOUBLE-SIDED WAND VIBRATOR

One end of this powerful toy has a wonder-ball wand with deep, rumbly vibrations for external stimulation. On the other side, a flexible end provides powerful and precise vibration for targeted clitoral stimulation. (You can use the slim end to penetrate one to three inches; it feels especially good pressed against the vagina’s front wall.) Each end of the wand offers eight pulsating patterns that vary in intensity, with subtle, ergonomically placed controls for uninterrupted navigation. It’s designed for safe bath and shower play. And it has an LED battery display so you never have to experience your vibrator losing charge in the heat of the moment.

Vibrators for Internal Stimulation

THE G-SPOT VIBRATORS

Obviously, all internal stimulators can also be used for targeted external stimulation; that’s just not their main selling point. Vibrators marketed to stimulate the G-spot are usually designed to reach the vagina’s front wall, where they can bump up against the internal structure of the clitoris.

Made with Dame’s strongest motor yet, the Arc delivers vibrations that can be enjoyed internally (by inserting the curved length into your vagina) or externally (the bulb-shaped head has five different patterns and speeds). An alternative for beginners is The Tennis Pro, a less-pricey vibrator ($60) from Smile Makers that’s a similar idea but has slightly fewer pulsation and intensity modes.

THE RIBBED INTERNAL VIBRATOR

If you like the idea of a G-spot vibrator but want the added sensation of ridges that provide unique internal sensations when moved in and out of the (sensitive) vaginal entrance, there’s The Romantic.

Vibrators for Internal and External Stimulation

THE RABBIT-SHAPED VIBRATOR

This riff on a classic is made with longer “ears” designed to provide constant contact both internally and externally as you move. Its long head is firm and adjustable, which allows you to shape the angle just right for internal pressure points, and the short head bends, which keeps it on your clitoris as you explore different levels of penetration. Each head has its own motor that you can control independently. It also has an associated app, where you can program custom patterns, and you can invite a partner to join—from across the room or across the globe—and operate the Nova 2 remotely for you.

THE AIR-PULSE-AND-
PENETRATION COMBO

The external end of the Womanizer Duo is equipped with a cup-shaped head that you place over the clitoris to create a seal. Turn it on and quick pulses of air create a sensation that feels a lot like oral sex. The second, tapered head massages internal points at the same time. There are ten vibration patterns to choose from, and each head’s intensity can be adjusted independently of the other’s.

Bullet Vibrators

THE SILICONE BULLET VIBRATOR

Bullet-shaped vibrators are popular sex toys—they’re easy to use, and thus good for first-time explorers. Externally, the rounded tip feels good for targeted stimulation. You can also flatten the length of the vibrator against the vulva for broader, less-intense sensation. For internal stimulation, hold it by its end to insert it into the vagina; it feels especially good pressed against the front wall.

THE UPGRADED LIPSTICK VIBRATOR

Lipstick vibrators are named for their slanted tip, which helps you angle stimulation exactly where you want it. You use one as you would a classic bullet vibrator for external stimulation: The cupped part can be applied for broad vibrations to your whole vulva. The fluttered tip reaches higher speeds when you want precision. And the shaft has two ridges that help make it easy to hold and maneuver.

THE DISCREET VIBRATOR

The Wink+ is made of smooth stainless steel, which provides a different sensation from that of regular plastic or silicone vibrators. And it comes with an optional silicone cap, in case that’s what you’re after today. But its most distinguishing characteristic is that it looks like a mascara tube.

Non-Vulva Vibrators

PROSTATE MASSAGER

A vibrator like this can help you connect to the sensation of stimulating your prostate—solo or with a partner. This one has everything you want: It’s shaped to be easy and comfortable to insert, it’s 100 percent waterproof, and it has eight powerful vibration settings.

VIBRATING BUTT PLUG

This gentle silicone anal plug is controlled by an easy-to-use app that can be used nearby or remotely. It’s flexible and designed for your body’s natural curves: The base stimulates the perineum, while the body massages the prostate. Independent motors control the two parts separately or simultaneously, with seven speeds to create low rumbly vibrations.

VIBRATING COCK RING

The perfect cock ring should be comfortable, which means it needs to be not too tight and also have a vibration that’s not violently rumbly. This one is smooth and stretchy, with a wide range of vibrations so you can find what feels best to you. The beginner situation: Stretch and slide it down to the base of the penis. The advanced situation: Before getting hard, stretch it around both the penis and balls to increase sensation. For partner stimulation, just make sure it’s facing upward.

Kink-Friendly Accessories

VIBRATING NECKLACE

Here for the transition from night out to night in: This pretty, bullet-shaped pendant is made of stainless steel, finished in twenty-four-karat gold, and completely waterproof (so it’s easy to clean). And it looks great layered with other necklaces and with whatever you’re wearing. Or not wearing. (If you prefer a nongold option: Behold.)

VIBRATING RING

Palma’s vibrator ring is built from surgical-grade stainless steel and plated in eighteen-karat gold. It has three intensities, which you control with hidden buttons, and two customizable vibration modes. Tilt mode increases or decreases vibration intensity depending on the tilt of your hand. And in tap mode, you can tap Palma’s surface in a pattern you like and it will play the vibrations back to you on
a loop.

GILDED BONDAGE SET

This gold-plated stainless steel piece is subtle enough to be worn outside the bedroom, too—simply remove the leash to transform the collar into a chunky, trend-forward chain. It’s from the luxe lingerie label that also crafts our favorite paddle, braided leather whip, and soft, nonstick restraint tape. And we like these faux-leather detachable cuffs by Bijoux Indiscrets.

Tools for Pelvic-Floor Connection

VAGINAL TONER

vFit uses red light and gentle warmth to stimulate blood flow and promote intimate well-being. (It vibrates, too.) Pair with a clean lube for a nonhormonal, noninvasive approach to improving pelvic floor muscle tone and sexual function.

HIGH-TECH TRAINER

Elvie is a small, smooth, waterproof pod that you slip in just as you would a tampon. Via Bluetooth, the pod links to the Elvie app, which tracks your progress through gamelike five-minute pelvic floor exercises. If you’re interested in strengthening your pelvic floor but unsure how to do it consistently, this makes it pretty simple.

YONI EGG

Another way to approach a Kegel-like physical practice, if crystals and energy healing are your jam: Insert the egg into your vagina and feel the connection with your body by squeezing and releasing the egg. You might begin with a ten-minute session, if comfortable; build up a practice if it brings joy.

Lubricants and Massage Oils

WATER-BASED LUBE

Water-based lubes are what you want to use with rubber latex, polyurethane, and polyisoprene condoms and toys. (Oils compromise the efficacy and integrity of latex condoms and can degrade some sex toys over time.)

MASSAGE OIL

One could argue that the key to a good massage is an ultrahydrating oil that lends a silky quality to every touch. Province Apothecary’s blend of coconut oil, sunflower-seed oil, and vitamin E does just that—and it smells amazing. The delicate mix of bergamot, clary sage, ylang-ylang, rose, and jasmine is sensual and relaxing.

OIL-BASED LUBE

This luxurious bedroom oil is made with coconut and sunflower-seed oils. It’s also infused with vitamin E, evening primrose oil, and rosemary leaf extract. It’s the most hydrating intimate oil we know of and gives just the right amount of slip once applied to skin.

MASSAGE CANDLE

Here’s a remarkable invention: a candle that doubles as a luxurious treatment for skin. Light the candle and the blend of argan, coconut, and shea butter melts into a nourishing oil that leaves skin moisturized, nourished, and soft. (You can pour the melted candle directly onto skin—it’s warm and soothing.)

THE LUBE WARMER

This small but mighty device delivers a uniformly measured dollop of warmed water-based lubricant into your fingers. All you do is pop in one of the accompanying Pulse pods, press a button, wait a minute, and hold your fingers under the dispenser for two seconds. (If you’ve ever handled a lube bottle that’s gotten lubed up itself, you’ll appreciate this feature.) The warmer automatically turns off an hour after last use, and it has a locking function so that it never goes off when you don’t want it to.

Conversation Starters

PROMPTS FOR PARTNERS

It may not be a toy, but it is a tool: This journal is designed to be picked up right after sex. In each entry, you fill out a set of prompts—first one that you and your partner fill out individually, then another that you do together. You reflect on what felt best, what you each want out of play, and how you’re growing together. If talking about sex ever feels awkward, the journal includes a guide to managing those feelings, too. End goal? Greater openness, deeper intimacy, and a bit of silliness.

PLEASURE GAME

Unbound’s card deck is a sexy spin on the classic game of truth or dare. It’s designed to build intimacy and encourage sexual communication, with questions like “What is your idea of great foreplay?” and dares like “Touch yourself in a way you like to be touched.” It can get as spicy as you want. And if you’re not feeling a particular challenge, the game includes “pass” cards that you can put down at any time and as many times as you want.

More Support

SEX PILLOW

Made of soft foam (with a removable, machine-washable cover), it looks like a regular throw pillow when you want it to. But when you need it, the wedge shape helps you hit the perfect angle.

In the Name of Ridiculous But Awesome

GOLD RUSH

Yes, this is a twenty-four-karat-gold vibrator. It’s sculpted with a rounded end for deep penetration and a flattened end for clitoral stimulation. You can think of the Olga as the Aston Martin of sex toys: super sleek, dripping in luxury, built for performance, and you’d feel f*cking cool driving one.

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