Wellness

Types of Sex Toys, Vibrators, Lubes, and More for Every Desire

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The vibrator that feels like oral sex. The vibrator that’s made for deep internal stimulation. The one that does both, all while allowing a partner to control it remotely via your private app invitation. We’re living through a vibrator and sex toy renaissance: If there’s a sensation your vulva dreams of, it probably just hit the market in the form of a chic, body-safe silicone massager. And that’s just the (proverbial) tip.

Of course, not all vibrators are created equal—and as with all things sex and desire, everyone is different. We’ve included the ones we love most, organized by their most salient function, so you can choose which best suit your pleasure. Also included below: our favorite lubes, prostate stimulators, BDSM-friendly jewelry, and more sex toys to guarantee your world is rocked, every time.

Vibrators for External Stimulation

THE DOUBLE-SIDED WAND VIBRATOR

Wands provide a powerful rumbly external vibration, which is good for those who need more stimulation to get off. One end of this powerful toy has a wonder-ball with deep, rumbly vibrations for external stimulation. On the other side, a flexible end provides powerful and precise vibration for targeted clitoral stimulation. (You can use the slim end to penetrate one to three inches; it feels especially good pressed against the vagina’s front wall.) Each end of the wand offers eight pulsating patterns that vary in intensity, with subtle, ergonomically placed controls for uninterrupted navigation. It’s designed for safe bath and shower play. And it has an LED battery display so you never have to experience your vibrator losing charge in the heat of the moment.

THE VULVA VIBRATOR

If this sounds like a vague category, allow us to explain: The Ballerina is designed to fit in your palm and be placed on your vulva, with the narrower end positioned at the tip of your clitoris and the wider end on your vaginal opening. A silicone gel coating makes its texture squishable enough that you could indent it with your finger—which gives it a next-level feel that’s almost as good in your hand as it is on the clitoris and labia.

THE ULTRAFLEXIBLE VIBRATOR

Pom’s soft, flexible body sits comfortably in the palm of your hand, providing targeted clitoral stimulation. It’s built to bend and move—just apply pressure with your fingers and it’ll bend, hugging close. (It’s slightly smaller than the Ballerina, for context.)

THE VIBRATOR THAT FEELS
LIKE A TONGUE

You might not be able to tell from this picture, but the tip of the French Lover has a very thin soft silicone tip designed to mimic the feeling of a tongue. Which means it’s great for stimulating not just the clitoris but any erogenous zone—the flexible end lightly vibrates and can be flicked around for a delicate licking sensation. It’s a great sex toy for a teasing buildup and for those who are sensitive to strong pressure.

THE HANDS-FREE VIBRATOR

Designed for partner sex, Eva II has flexible “wings” that are meant to be tucked under the labia to help hold the vibrator in place so that all hands are free to support body weight or do whatever else you’d like them to do. It might take some practice and adjusting to find the right position—pull one labium (lip) over one wing at a time. It’s also a good solo option if you don’t like the feeling of vibrations on your hand.

THE CLITORAL AND LABIA MASSAGE VIBRATOR

Named for its flame-shaped tip, The Firefighter gives strong and focused stimulation to the clit—and carries that vibration to the labia. Four speeds and two pulsation modes help you build arousal, while the main groove puts pressure right where you want it.

THE PULSE-AND-SUCTION VIBRATOR

The Womanizer feels a lot like oral sex. How it works: Turn it on and place the stimulation head over the clitoris to form a seal—we recommend doing so with a water- or aloe-based lube—and let it do its thing. (That thing: emitting pulses of air and light vibrations that create a sucking sensation around the clitoris.) It fits nicely in the palm of your hand and is nearly effortless to operate. This is especially true if you turn it on autopilot, which switches up the vibration patterns and intensity to mimic the variation of partnered oral sex.

THE TAPPING TOY

Instead of vibrating, this toy makes a tapping motion with the small, motorized tip under its silicone surface. (Lora DiCarlo toys are engineered to approximate different kinds of human touch—in this case, the tapping of a finger.) Carezza runs at ten speeds: The slowest is great for warming up, and the fastest will take you to the finish line.

THE FINGER VIBRATOR

Finger vibrators, like the Fin, are designed to be effortless, feel natural to wear, and not distract from the moment. Just slide your pointer and middle fingers along the grooves and change the intensity with the power button on top.

THE DOUBLE-MOTOR VIBRATOR

Le Wand’s Double Vibe is perfectly palm-size with bunny ears designed to nestle between your labia and hug your clitoris. Each ear contains its own powerful motor, and the ears are flexible enough to pinch around the clitoris (or nipples) for a super close fit. There’s an optional ribbed silicone sleeve you can slip over them, too, for a different sensation.

THE WEARABLE VIBRATOR

Place Moxie on the inside of your underwear, secure it with the magnetic clip, and get at it hands-free. To control the vibrations, choose from either the handheld remote (great for solo sessions) or the We-Connect app on your phone, which lets you link up with a partner on the app so they can tease you from any distance.

Sex Toys for Internal Stimulation

THE G-SPOT VIBRATOR

Obviously, all internal stimulators can also be used for targeted external stimulation; that’s just not their main selling point. Located close to the root of your clitoris, your G-spot is stimulated internally, typically by applying persistent stroking pressure against the front vaginal wall after you’re already aroused. We designed this tricked-out take on a G-spot stimulator to maximize pleasure: It’s curved at the perfect angle. Dual-density silicone gives the tip an ultraplush feeling. And a self-heating function gently warms the vibrator to just above body temperature to promote blood flow and muscle relaxation.

THE RIBBED INTERNAL VIBRATOR

If you like the idea of a G-spot vibrator but want the added sensation of ridges that provide unique internal sensations when moved in and out of the (sensitive) vaginal entrance, there’s the Romantic.

THE STAINLESS STEEL DILDO

This gorgeous, luxurious toy is made entirely of metal. The heavy stainless steel is firmer than a typical dildo and cool to the touch. The curve just right for G-spot massage. And it’s great for temperature play: Just dunk it in warm or chilly water for a few minutes.

Vibrators for Internal and External Stimulation

THE RABBIT-SHAPED VIBRATOR

This riff on a classic is made with longer “ears” designed to provide constant contact both internally and externally as you move. Its long head is firm and adjustable, which allows you to shape the angle just right for internal pressure points, and the short head bends, which keeps it on your clitoris as you explore different levels of penetration. Each head has its own motor that you can control independently. It also has an associated app, where you can program custom patterns, and you can invite a partner to join—from across the room or across the globe—and operate the Nova 2 remotely for you.

THE AIR-PULSE-AND-
PENETRATION COMBO

This dual-stimulation vibrator is made with an air-pulsing mouth that creates sucking sensations around the clitoris and an internal stimulation head that targets pressure points on the front vaginal wall. Insert the internal stimulation head into your vagina first, and then fit the mouth of the external one over the clitoris. The internal head hits the right balance between firm and flexible, so it’s easy to get the positioning right, and it’s designed to vibrate in sync with the device’s clitoral suction, which feels incredible.

Bullet Vibrators

THE SILICONE BULLET VIBRATOR

Bullet-shaped vibrators are popular sex toys—they’re easy to use, and thus good for first-time explorers. Externally, the rounded tip feels good for targeted stimulation. You can also flatten the length of the vibrator against the vulva for a broader, less-intense sensation. For internal stimulation, hold it by its end to insert it into the vagina; it feels especially good pressed against the front wall.

THE DISCREET VIBRATOR

The Wink+ is made of smooth stainless steel, which provides a different sensation from that of regular plastic or silicone vibrators. And it comes with an optional silicone cap, in case that’s what you’re after today. But its most distinguishing characteristic is that it looks like a mascara tube.

THE CLASSIC BULLET VIBRATOR

This stainless steel bullet vibrator is compact, discreet, and shaped just right for pinpointed clitoral stimulation. It has a satisfying weight to it. And it gives you ten (powerful, deep, rumbly) vibration modes—five steady intensities and five patterns—to play with.

THE REMOTE-CONTROL
BULLET VIBRATOR

Play solo or hand the remote control to a partner: The Lyla 2 comes with a motion-activated remote. Just tip the remote from completely horizontal—where the vibrator’s power will run at 10 percent of its max—toward vertical, where it reaches maximum intensity. You can also drop the remote entirely and cycle through Lyla’s six preprogrammed vibration patterns by clicking the power button on the bullet itself. Or if you’re feeling daring, slip Lyla in as you would a tampon, get dressed, and let your partner control your pleasure as you go about your day.

Non-Vulva Vibrators

THE WARMING VIBRATING PLUG

Tilt has two independently controlled motors—one in the plug end for stimulation of the G-spot or the prostate, and another on the longer, outer arm that can be used to stimulate the clitoris or the perineum. The sensation of the vibrations isn’t like a typical buzzing; it’s more of a deep thrumming, radiating sensation. The vibrator is designed to lie very flat to the body when it’s inserted. And at the touch of a button, it warms to just above your body’s temperature to encourage blood flow, which can help your body relax and also encourage an erection in either a penis or a clitoris.

THE VIBRATING COCK RING

The perfect cock ring should be comfortable, which means it needs to be not too tight and also have a vibration that’s not violently rumbly. Verge is comfortable and fits around the penis and testicles—you’ll want to put it on before getting hard. To stimulate the perineum, position the toy downward, and you’ll experience pressure on your perineum with each thrust. For a different sensation, you can position the stimulator upward, which would also stimulate the clitoris of a partner during penetrative sex. You can control Verge’s vibration settings manually via the power buttons on the side or connect by Bluetooth in the We-Vibe app.

Kink-Friendly Accessories

VIBRATING NECKLACE

Here for the transition from night out to night in: This pretty, bullet-shaped pendant is made of stainless steel, finished in twenty-four-karat gold, and completely waterproof (so it’s easy to clean). And it looks great layered with other necklaces and with whatever you’re wearing. Or not wearing.

THE BLINDFOLD

The butter-soft leather overlay gives this padded eye mask an edge. And the mask provides complete blackout—which makes it an excellent foundation for other erotic surprises.

Tools for Pelvic-Floor Connection

HIGH-TECH TRAINER

Elvie is a small, smooth, waterproof pod that you slip in just as you would a tampon. Via Bluetooth, the pod links to the Elvie app, which tracks your progress through gamelike five-minute pelvic floor exercises. If you’re interested in strengthening your pelvic floor but unsure how to do it consistently, this makes it pretty simple.

the pelvic clock

Developed by a former Olympic rhythmic gymnastics coach, the Pelvic Clock is designed to help increase flexibility in the lumbar spine, improve hip mobility and alignment, relax tight hip flexors, and strengthen the core. You lie down with the Pelvic Clock under your sacrum, warm up your hips with some gentle stretches, then repeat a series of exercises with simple instructions based on the face of the clock, like rocking your hips from three o’clock to nine.

YONI EGG

Another way to approach a Kegel-like physical practice, if crystals and energy healing are your jam: Insert the egg into your vagina and feel the connection with your body by squeezing and releasing the egg. You might begin with a ten-minute session, if comfortable; build up a practice if it brings joy.

Lubricants and Massage Oils

WATER-BASED LUBE

Water-based lubes are what you want to use with rubber latex, polyurethane, and polyisoprene condoms and toys. (Oils compromise the efficacy and integrity of latex condoms and can degrade some sex toys over time.)

MASSAGE OIL

One could argue that the key to a good massage is an ultrahydrating oil that lends a silky quality to every touch. Province Apothecary’s blend of coconut oil, sunflower-seed oil, and vitamin E does just that—and it smells amazing. The delicate mix of bergamot, clary sage, ylang-ylang, rose, and jasmine is sensual and relaxing.

OIL-BASED LUBE

This luxurious sex oil is made with coconut and sunflower-seed oils. It’s also infused with vitamin E, evening primrose oil, and rosemary leaf extract. It’s the most hydrating intimate oil we know of and gives just the right amount of slip once applied to skin.

MASSAGE CANDLE

Here’s a remarkable invention: a candle that doubles as a luxurious treatment for skin. Light the candle and the blend of argan, coconut, and shea butter melts into a nourishing oil that leaves skin moisturized, nourished, and soft. (You can pour the melted candle directly onto skin—it’s warm and soothing.)

THE LUBE WARMER

This small but mighty device delivers a uniformly measured dollop of warmed water-based lubricant into your fingers. All you do is pop in one of the accompanying Pulse pods, press a button, wait a minute, and hold your fingers under the dispenser for two seconds. (If you’ve ever handled a lube bottle that’s gotten lubed up itself, you’ll appreciate this feature.) The warmer automatically turns off an hour after last use, and it has a locking function so that it never goes off when you don’t want it to.

Conversation Starters

THE SEX JOURNAL

It may not be a toy, but it is a tool: This journal is designed to be picked up right after sex. In each entry, you fill out a set of prompts—first one that you and your partner fill out individually, then another that you do together. You reflect on what felt best, what you each want out of play, and how you’re growing together. If talking about sex ever feels awkward, the journal includes a guide to managing those feelings, too. End goal? Greater openness, deeper intimacy, and a bit of silliness.

RELATIONSHIP GAME

Loaded with conversation prompts for you and a romantic partner, these cards make a game out of the stuff that’s important to talk about but sometimes hard to bring up. The point? To quash assumptions and connect more deeply with each other.

More support

SUPPLEMENT

Everyday stress and anxiety, hormonal fluctuations, and fatigue can all impact female libido and sexual health. Which is why we formulated DTF with three key ingredients to support healthy sexual function, vitality, and mood in women. First up, Libifem® fenugreek extract, which has been clinically studied to support healthy sexual arousal and desire in women and provide support for symptoms of menopause. Next, shatavari, an adaptogenic herb traditionally used in Ayurveda to support female health. And for mood support, saffron extract.*

SEX PILLOW

Made of soft foam (with a removable, machine-washable cover), this sex pillow looks like a regular throw when you want it to. But when you need it, the wedge shape helps you hit the perfect angle.


*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.


Libifem® is a registered trademark of Gencor.