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Aural Sex for Beginners

In partnership with our friends at Guided by Glow

Masturbation is not an activity that requires anything outside of your own body. And often, the challenge is just that: getting out of your head and into your body so that you can allow for pleasure and climax.

There are plenty of cues that can help us get closer to that state. Maybe it’s turning on your favorite toy or running a bath and lighting a candle. These days, we’re listening to Guided by Glow, an app for on-demand erotic audio sessions founded by actor and writer Sayra Player. “I lean on things like yoga and meditation for relief,” she says. “I was listening to a meditation one day, and the man speaking had such a nice voice. I thought, Wow, that would be so nice if he spoke to me in a sexually intimate way that is just as nourishing as what he’s doing to my body with these nonsexual cues.”

Guided by Glow has a robust library of sessions that begin as any guided meditation would, with cues to help you focus you on tactile things like breathing or noticing the temperature of the room. Slowly, the narrator involves you in an imaginative experience. It’s definitely porn—it’s explicitly sexual and instructive—but you’re guided through storytelling and simple breathwork, too. You can navigate based on what you’re in the mood for (either someone speaking to you as if you’re in the same room as them or a story told in the third person). And you can filter based on gender preferences and save your favorites.

Below, we’ve outlined two simple ways to make the most of aural sex.

The Shower Setup

  1. STEP 1: SET THE MOOD

    This portable diffuser is cordless and runs on a rechargeable battery—bring it with you into the bathroom, fill it with water to the internal fill line, and add however many drops you want of your preferred essential oil.

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  2. STEP 2: HEIGHTEN YOUR SENSES

    Wake up with the subtly spicy combination of ginger, ashwagandha, Japanese shiso leaf, Indian black pepper oil, and pink peppercorn berries.

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  3. STEP 3: PRESS PLAY

    Listen to a story that involves a summertime hammock slumber and, eventually, a swim with a stranger.

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  4. STEP 4: FOLLOW ALONG

    We made this vibrator for exploration. The pink wonder-ball end delivers rumbly, massaging vibrations in eight pulsating patterns that vary in intensity. The other side of the toy is designed for more-precise, targeted stimulation of the external clitoris or to penetrate one to three inches. It’s soft and bendy; it feels especially good pressed against the vagina’s front wall. And of course the wand is safe for water play.

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The Bed Setup

  1. STEP 1: SET THE MOOD

    Using the warmth from just a candle, the burner diffuses essential oils throughout your space. Drop your essential oil of choice in the dish up top and a tea light in the holder down below and you’ve set yourself up for both pleasant aromatics and soft lighting.

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  2. STEP 2: HEIGHTEN YOUR SENSES

    Made of pure long-fiber mulberry silk, this eye mask is luxuriously soft and soothing. Slip it on to block out light and engage your imagination.

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  3. STEP 3: PRESS PLAY

    Stardust is a twelve-minute guided meditation with a narrator named Van, who talks to you as if you were alone in the same room. It’s a journey.

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  4. STEP 4: FOLLOW ALONG

    Filare is designed to feel like a partner’s finger or swirling tongue. Instead of a vibrating motor, it has two balls that sit and move underneath its soft silicone surface. Turn the device on and those balls rotate around a center point. There are ten different speeds to choose from, as well as three rotation modes: one clockwise, one counterclockwise, and one that alternates direction and varies the depth of sensation. Use it anywhere on your body—your clitoris, your nipples, or even just your neck.

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