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Nice Gifts for Shitty Situations

When a friend or a loved one is going through shit, the worst thing you can do is nothing. A bouquet of flowers, a casserole delivered to their doorstep, or an offer to watch their puppy for a few hours is a powerful assurance that whatever they’re going through, they’re not alone.

When you’re offering your time, take ownership of a task and be specific. While offering “whatever you need” is all well and good, it puts the onus on your friend to reach out and ask for help when something comes up, which can feel difficult. It’s much easier to accept someone’s direct offer to mow your lawn at 10:30 on Saturday or to watch your kids while you’re at an appointment.

Although a condolence gift is less about the gift than the fact you are there, we like to match what we give someone with the specific ways they cope with difficult times. We’ve gathered some ideas below—along with florists who ship nationally and the goop recipes we turn to when we want to drop off food to a loved one.

  1. For the Self-Carer

    Me time speaks to this person. Bubble baths, face masks, and comfort TV may be involved.

  2. This oaky, nutty elixir is formulated with adaptogenic reishi and ashwagandha.

    Wylde One Yoga in a Cup
    Wylde One Yoga in a Cup goop, $35
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  3. Have them pop the whole pillow in the microwave for a minute and drape it over their shoulders.

    Ostrichpillow Heated Neck Wrap
    Ostrichpillow Heated Neck Wrap goop, $45
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  4. Something soft to slip on their feet.

    Morihata Washable Leather Room Shoes
    Morihata Washable Leather
    Room Shoes
    goop, $196
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  5. This bath soak is made to take the edge off with oils and extracts from chia seed, valerian root, Australian sandalwood, wild-crafted frankincense, and myrrh.

    goop Beauty “The Martini” Emotional Detox Bath Soak
    goop Beauty “The Martini” Emotional
    Detox Bath Soak
    goop, $35
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  6. These eye gels are incredibly soothing—even more so if you keep them in the fridge.

    Jillian Dempsey Hydrating Eye Mask
    Jillian Dempsey Hydrating Eye Mask goop, $75
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  7. This diffuser, plus a set of essential oil blends, is our go-to gift for most occasions.

    vitruvi goop-Exclusive Stone Diffuser
    vitruvi goop-Exclusive
    Stone Diffuser
    goop, $119
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  8. Something frothy, warm, and uplifting to sip.

    Golde Cacao Turmeric Latte Blend
    GOLDE Cacao Turmeric
    Latte Blend
    goop, $29
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  9. Call it a game, call it active meditation—it’s easy to get sucked in to this puzzle and forget about everything else for a while.

    Piecework Puzzles Forbidden Fruit Puzzle
    Piecework Puzzles Forbidden Fruit Puzzle goop, $36
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  1. For the Person Who Always Sweats It Out

    It can be healing to drop out of your head and into your body—here are a few things that can help.

  2. To help them release tension and relax their body.

    OPTP LoRox Aligned Roller
    OPTP LoRox Aligned Roller goop, $54
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  3. These wrist weights add a little extra challenge to exercise—and they’re cute. This gift pairs well with an offer to walk with them whenever they want.

    Bala Weighted Wrist Bangles
    Bala Weighted Wrist Bangles goop, $49
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  4. A foundation for whatever movements feel good right now.

    goop x Puma Yoga Mat
    goop x PUMA Yoga Mat goop, $50
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  5. Nothing like crying in spin class.

    Classpass Gift Card
    ClassPass Gift Card
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  1. For the Venter

    Letting it all out can be a powerful way to process emotion, whether that means
    dumping thoughts onto a piece of paper or finding the right listening ear.

  2. Drop by with your friend’s coffee order, lace up your sneaks, and hit the pavement…

    Porter Ceramic To-Go Mug
    W&P Porter Ceramic
    To-Go Mug
    goop, $25
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  3. goop Fair-Trade Specialty Coffee
    goop Fair Trade
    Specialty Coffee
    goop, $28
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  4. Or sink into the couch together with a bottle of their favorite Pinot…

    SommSelect Wine of the Day
    SommSelect Wine of the Day SommSelect, prices vary
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  5. Or nibble on something sweet as you hash it over.

    FX Chocolate FX Exhale
    FX Chocolate FX Exhale goop, $40
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  6. Talkspace does gift cards for online therapy sessions and unlimited instant messaging with a therapist.

    Talkspace Therapy Gift Card
    Talkspace Therapy Gift Card Talkspace, from $79
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  7. A pretty notebook for expressive journaling doesn’t hurt either. (A practice to suggest: this writing exercise to purge emotions.)

    Magic of I Vegan Leather Journal
    Magic of I Vegan-Leather Journal Magic of I, $28
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  1. For the Spiritual Traveler

    If they feel more themselves after an energy healing, they might find something meaningful in these gifts.

  2. Give the all-purpose Inner Compass cards to someone looking for a little direction. (There’s a deck specific to love and relationships, too.)

    Inner Compass Cards Inner Compass Cards
    Inner Compass Cards Inner Compass Cards goop, $55
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  3. Inner Compass Cards Inner Compass Love Cards
    Inner Compass Cards Inner Compass
    Love Cards
    goop, $55
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  4. A little something for their altar.

    goop x Cinnamon Projects goop-Exclusive Agate Burner Incense Set
    goop x Cinnamon Projects goop-Exclusive Agate
    Burner Incense Set
    goop, $295
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  5. Option A: tickets to a local sound bath. Option B: a singing bowl they can play at home to move stuck emotions.

    Incausa Large Standard Singing Bowl Set
    Incausa Large Standard
    Singing Bowl Set
    goop, $185
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  6. Breathwork teacher Andrew Smart has a practice for whatever they need right now—calm, clarity, energy, emotional catharsis…

    Chronicle Books Breathwork
    Chronicle Books Breathwork goop, $17
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  7. Vancouver-based spirit communicator Mimi Young travels to unseen worlds to contact your guides, heal past lives, and clear spiritual entanglements. (She does medium readings as well.)

    CEREMONIE Remote Shamanic Reading
    CEREMONIE Remote Shamanic Reading CEREMONIE, $325
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  8. Author Mari Andrew’s self-illustrated essays celebrate the strong feelings that make life whole.

    Mari Andrew My Inner Sky
    Mari Andrew My Inner Sky Bookshop, $20
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  1. When In Doubt, Send Flowers

    A bouquet of flowers is the default for a reason. It lets someone know you’re thinking
    of them while adding a small moment of joy or beauty to their day.

  2. Popupflorist ships its gorgeous dried bouquets (and floral sage bundles) nationwide.

    Popupflorist Dried Bouquet
    Popupflorist Dried Bouquet Popupflorist, $50
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  3. Floom works with local florists across the country to deliver fresh stems as soon as the same day.

    Floom Bouquet
    Floom Bouquet Floom, prices vary
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  4. Venice-based florist Spencer Falls puts together these earthy arrangements.

    The Unlikely Florist Bouquet
    The Unlikely Florist Bouquet The Unlikely Florist, from $50
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  5. Tiny Feelings to soothe big feelings: These bright and cheery bunches are available in NYC.

    Tiny Feelings Bouquet
    Tiny Feelings Bouquet Tiny Feelings, from $100
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  6. For more local blooms, check out our guide to the best florists in every city.

  1. The Next-Gen Casserole Drop-Off

    If making dinner is something you can take off their plate, do. Each of these recipes is great fresh but also freezes well. Which is helpful for your recipient: When something bad happens, people tend to get inundated with fresh food at the beginning. When those deliveries start to drop off, they’ll have this stash in their freezer.
    (And a gift card to their favorite takeout joint? Wonderful idea, too.)

  2. Deliver with a loaf of sliced sourdough (if necessary, that can go in the freezer as well) and you’ve got a whole meal.

     Vegan Cashew Tomato Soup
    Vegan Cashew Tomato Soup
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  3. These dumplings take some time on your end, but they’re worth it.

     Chicken Cabbage Zucchini Dumplings
    Chicken Cabbage Zucchini Dumplings
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  4. This recipe makes a lot of lasagna. It’s rich and comforting and makes for amazing leftovers.

     Lasagna with Sausage Ragu
    Lasagna with Sausage Ragu
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  5. Something sweet for them to munch in the a.m.

     Buckwheat Banana Bread with Salty Butter
    Buckwheat Banana Bread
    with Salty Butter
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