“I’m going to be joyful.” This eventually became actor Kelly Rutherford’s MO after she experienced a harrowing, messy divorce that separated her from her children. (Stay with us; it gets better.) But first, Rutherford asked: “Am I allowed to grieve?” She learned how to allow her children to grieve. How to “intentionally let go” of the things that were out of her control. How to feel gratitude again. And in the process, she rediscovered all that her children had to teach her. And how she could still become a better parent, one who liberated her kids to be themselves and to find their own joy.