The Best Clean Lubes and Intimate Body Oils

Written by: Denise John, PhD


Updated: July 21, 2022


Adding lubricants and oils to sexual play can do two things: Make it comfortable, and make it even more pleasurable.

But harsh ingredients commonly found in lubricants can cause irritation and potentially longer-term health effects, which is not so comfortable or pleasurable. The vulva, clitoris, and vagina are highly permeable. Ideally you want to use clean lubes and oils made without parabens, phthalates, or other endocrine disruptors.

All the lubes and oils here meet our clean, safe ingredient standards. They serve different purposes, from lubrication (with or without sex toys and condoms) to body massage to vulva hair and skin care. And they serve them very well. They are all an absolute pleasure to use.

Condom-Friendly and Toy-Safe Lubes
and Sex Serums

Water- and aloe-based lubricants and sex serums pair well with condoms (latex and polyisoprene) and sex toys of all types (yup, the silicone ones, too). And they are quite satisfying on their own.

  1. Playful Serum

    Made with aloe, chamomile, ginseng, horny goat weed, and hemp seed extracts, Whet is a light, water-based sex serum infused with arousing ingredients that give slip without the stickiness. You need just a few pumps for however you want to play.

    Personal Fav Whet
    Personal Fav Whet Plant-Based
    Sex Serum
    goop, $24
  2. No-Mess Lube

    The H2Oh! pods contain a water-based lubricant made with an organic chia seed extract that’s hydrating and glides on smoothly with no sticky residue. You can dispense lube from the pods manually, but this six-pod refill pack is best used with the Pulse Warmer.

    PULSE H2Oh! Personal Lubricant (6 Pack Refill)
    Pulse H2Oh! Personal Lubricant
    (6 Pack Refill)
    goop, $30
  3. Touchless Warmer

    The Pulse Warmer gently heats your lube for added sensual pleasure. It’s designed to pair with Pulse pods, like the H2Oh! Personal Lubricant and Spoil Me Massage Oil Pulse Pods. Pop one of the pods into the warmer and it touchlessly delivers a dollop of warm lubricant. No slippery lube bottles to fumble around with.

    Pulse Pulse Warmer
    Pulse Pulse Warmer goop, $199
  4. Soothing Lube

    This aloe-based lube contains vitamin E and extracts of hibiscus, green tea, and sunflower seed. It’s formulated to match the vagina’s natural lubrication. It’s soothing and easy to clean up.

    Sliquid Organics Natural 4.2 oz
    Sliquid Organics Natural 4.2 oz goop, $15

    Flavored with sea salt and caramel (food-grade, not fragrance), a few spritzes of this water-based lube will add another tasty layer to your play. Plus, it’s formulated with hydrating hyaluronic acid, L-arginine, and botanical extracts. And the chic bottle adds a nice touch to your bedside drawer (or wherever you take it).

    Glissant Sea Salt & Caramel Water-Based Lube
    Glissant Sea Salt & Caramel Water-Based Lube goop, $55

Body and Massage Oils

Stimulating body and massage oils are great for arousing sexual pleasure and sensual play and can be enjoyed with or without a partner. (Worth noting once more: Oil-based products don’t work with condoms and sex toys. For that, you want to use water- or aloe-based products.)

  1. Warm It Up

    If you’re looking to heat things up a bit, Spoil Me Massage Oil is the silky-smooth oil that pairs with the Pulse Warmer. This plant-based oil blend—safflower, sunflower, grape-seed, and jojoba—has just the right amount of moisture so it doesn’t soak into the skin too fast.

    PULSE Spoil Me Massage Oil Pulse Pod
    Pulse Spoil Me Unscented Massage Oil Pulse Pod goop, $30

    The candle’s melting point is just a few degrees above body temperature, which means you can pour its nourishing oils onto your skin without waiting for it to cool. Use it as a soothing and moisturizing massage oil—or as a gentle experiment with temperature play.

    Seed to Skin The Massage Candle goop, $65
    Seed to Skin The Massage Candle goop, $65
  3. Sensual Massage

    Province Apothecary Lover’s Oil’s delicate mix of bergamot, clary sage, ylang-ylang, rose, and jasmine adds a sensual tone to any massage. Its blend of coconut oil, sunflower-seed oil, and vitamin E is hydrating, smells amazing, and lends a silky quality to every touch.

    Province Apothecary Lover's Oil
    Province Apothecary Lover’s Oil goop, $32
  4. Sex Oil

    Made with coconut and sunflower-seed oils, this luxurious bedroom oil has enough slip to be used all over the body. It’s infused with vitamin E, evening primrose oil, and rosemary leaf extract.

    Province Apothecary Sex Oil
    Province Apothecary Sex Oil goop, $28

Vulva—Skin and

Oils that delicately nurture your vulva’s skin and hair, whether you’re completely waxed or fully grown out.

  1. Hair Care

    Growing it out? Bush Oil is formulated with fifteen oils to nurture the hair on your vulva and bikini line. And its essential oil blend of lavender, neroli, helichrysum, and ylang-ylang gives it a sensual aroma. Add drops of the oil directly to your vulva to nurture and soften hair, and you can use it on your legs and underarms, too.

    True Botanicals Bush Oil
    True Botanicals Bush Oil goop, $38
  2. For the Postshave-Bump-Prone

    Fur Oil is made to soothe skin and limit ingrown hairs. It includes grape-seed, jojoba, clary sage, and tea tree oils. It’s lightweight and nourishes hair follicles, absorbs quickly, and doesn’t leave a residue. Use it on your vulva, bikini line, or anywhere you wax or shave hair (underarms, legs, face, etc.).

    Fur Fur Oil
    Fur Fur Oil goop, $46